The problem of the disabled people is not because they cannot see, hear, walk or even talk, neither is it related to the fact that they happen to lack feelings in some body parts, their biggest problem is how the society takes these challenges the disabled face and how much there is effort to eradicate these exclusive aspects and attitudes. These are problems that don’t need to be fixed by the use of any medical intervention, it all starts in the mind and that is where it ends again.
Indeed sexuality is an act that can be performed by anyone; no one was ever taught how to do it so you don’t need to look at the disabled as people who need training in the area of sexuality. The ability or rather the access to inclusive sexuality is a sign of happiness and maturity, and just like anyone else, the disabled persons enjoy doing it.
The most common thing that denies the disabled people access to equal opportunity to exercise their sexuality is that some if not most of them find themselves in institutions, or some are at home and due to poor mobility they don’t get a chance to engage in social activities where they can initiate relationships that lead to the sexual experience they so much wish to access.
In some cases in life, we find that most people meet their life partners in colleges, in work places or even in social places and this is a contrary to the disabled who don’t get a chance to get to these levels in their lives. These are due to social and physical barriers experienced by the disabled. The aspect of being sexual in some cases has some attachments to money, one needs to buy some clothes, one needs to go to places and one needs to move around, and the opposite of this is that many disabled people are poor so you find they don’t get involved in matters to do with sexuality.
But we don’t just blame it all on the society and poverty in material form; we also have to know that being sexual has a lot to do with confidence, sexual mind and probably healthy self esteem. This is accompanied by the ability to communicate which is very vital not just for a disabled person but for any individual, and not just in the area of sexuality but in any area of life.
This therefore calls for trying online dating with both cautious and open mindedness.
whether online dating is safe or not is another whole topic and how to go about it is another whole task, this is coming up in details soon in a different article….